What is the Right Thing to Say?

When I taught in China we learned it was important in Chinese culture not to lose face or take face. When our group of teachers would be brought to various companies to tour and talk to the administration, I always had so many questions. One day, I became concerned that I was perhaps causing them to lose face with all my questions about their practices. Finally at one of our company tours I asked the administrators if my questions were causing them to lose face. They quickly assured me that no, because I showed genuine interest, they could tell my intent.

At times we don't always know what will be the right thing to say or how what we say may be interpreted, even within our own culture. But when we express our sincere hope that we want them to know we care, understanding and acceptance can be shared together. 

Thanks for listening.